Good fortune for some..? 16 12 17 (10) 25 2 20

Or the importance of family life..?

When I was a younger guy say early twenties when I first got interested in girls in a serious way, that is opposed to the cursory interest I had before that when I would only admire them from afar, I began to think that one day I should like to be married and raise a family...

Now not everyone thinks in this way: like my rock-climbing partner K at the time who always shunned the idea of settling down with a girl and having kids... In his midlife when at last he began to have steady relationships he even had a vasectomy, the idea was so abhorrent to him…

He also shunned the idea of having friends his own age so that I for example was 10½ y younger, as was his partner only she was a full 13 y younger… Well everything changed for him when at 69 his partner went and died leaving him the only one of his circle not still gainfully employed with everyone else so caught up in their own lives, and me for example building up for a coronary event and under a lot of stress in my job. So the bottom dropped out of his life and he ended up becoming a recluse, one by one jettisoning all his friends perhaps because most of them were still happily involved in family life and many but not all of them with children of their own…

But that’s the thing isn’t it that as one gets older the world appears increasingly to be a different place, and what is important as a young man or woman say of 26 is not necessarily the same when one gets to 69 for example..?

As one gets older still I have found it’s not easy to make new friends and also more worryingly it’s not easy either holding on to the friends one has got…

Now all this might be depressing but for one single circumstance and that of course is down to the fact that one has a family…

When I was asleep this last night I had this dream about moving house and much of the dream was about some people having it easy to move from say a desirable area to another desirable area whereas some people were stuck because the area from which they wished to move was not so desirable etc., etc., etc. …Well when I awoke what a relief it was to realise I was still in this house, our family home this past 27 years…


Just now my wife told me that Ki had rung to invite her to have coffee with her and her husband A and would I like to accompany her, to which of course I politely declined because she knew quite well I had my blog to write and some other things that were uppermost in my mind. So on my way to the bathroom I told her that yesterday I got 127 hits to my BlogSpot and she commiserated so she thought because I didn’t know which of my blogs had been read. On my return I added: “It doesn’t really matter which blogs they read because all my blogs are the same!”, by which I mean it is sufficient feedback for me to know I am being read and that the kind of things I write about some people find worth reading. hahaha. Have a good day everyone as I hope you too have a family to support you in your old age..?

As one gets older..? 16 12 17 (10) now re-posted with a different title...

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